It’s okay to not be okay, and here’s why.
When we try to pretend that everything is okay, we end up either hiding what’s really going on, or we don’t give the sludge the attention that our soul needs. A fruit when left alone will eventually rot. You can take that fruit and hide it in the cupboard, you can spray something to cover the scent, but that’s not going to prevent the rotting fruit from getting worse. When you give your pain the attention that it needs, you contribute to the freshness of your soul.
The Fruit of Your Pain.
If you think about the life cycle of fruit, it gives us an interesting perspective on our pain and the trials that life throws our way. A seed grows into a tree, that tree will produce fruit. If left alone, the fruit will naturally fall from the tree. The fruit will die and from inside the fruit, seeds will eventually fall out. Those seeds take root into the ground, and then those seeds grow into new trees.
Is the fruit dying a bad thing? Perhaps it is. But in the fruity circle of life, is it meaningless? Fruits die so new trees can grow. It is okay to not be okay, for even though what has happened may not be good, it is not meaningless. What you have gone through, or are currently going through, is not for nothing. If you allow your pain to fall on to good soil, it will grow into a new tree which will produce good fruit.
Even God Was Not Okay
Jesus, a historically famous teacher, and activist, (who experienced arguably more pain than anyone in history,) had a moment where even He was not okay. Jesus knew that He was about to be arrested, and He also knew (because of prophecy) that He would be killed via crucifixion. Crucifixion is historically known as the most painful experience in the world, so much so that we invented the word “excruciating” to describe it.When you give your pain the attention that it needs, you contribute to the freshness of your soul. Click To Tweet
The evening where He knew He would be arrested, Jesus went to pray. Luke, who was a physician, gathered testimonies from His followers and other eyewitnesses and compiled a letter which details the life of Jesus. Here is what Luke wrote about Jesus when He was not okay:
(Jesus) knelt down and prayed, “Father, if you are willing, please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.” Then an angel from heaven appeared and strengthened him. He prayed more fervently, and he was in such agony of spirit that his sweat fell to the ground like great drops of blood.The Good News According to Luke, Chapter 22.
Can you imagine that? This was not a metaphor of Jesus sweating blood, this is a rare medical phenomenon called Hematohidrosis. Jesus was not okay but Jesus was okay with embracing that. While Jesus knew that His fruit was beginning to die, He knew that His dying fruit was not for nothing. Because when fruits die, they leave seeds.
The death of Jesus is believed by myself and thousands of other Christians to pay for the price of our selfishness and immorality. Our sins were paid for by His wounds, and by His wounds, we are healed. (Isaiah 53:5.) We have life because He did not stay dead. His seeds produced new trees of life in His followers. He himself rose from the grave, according to His followers and His enemies and 500 other witnesses.
So what is the rotting fruit in your life that you may have been hiding in the cupboard? What is that fruit that you feel dying? Is it the loss of a family member, maybe you are struggling financially? Something did not go as you planned, life slapped you in the face. I want you to know, it’s okay to not be okay. Fruits die so that new trees can grow. New trees produce good fruit.